Re: Re: Overstepping Qualifications [was: Practice: Pair Programming, Sex, etc]

> I 
> was kind of shocked, when I started helping teams
> transition, to 
> discover just how people-y the work was, but I kind
> of accepted it.  

So was I, but I didn't accept it.  I didn't start out
as a coach, but when I started learning XP, I slowly
(i'd like to say quickly, but, no, slowly) realised
that my personal style had to change.  Mainly because
the coaches we hired kept pulling into rooms and
telling me this 'airy fairy' people and team nonsense,
and then pushed me back on the team and let me learn
that the people stuff was actually important.

> I think
> that it also sidesteps 
> frank discussions about team dynamics, personal
> coping styles,etc
> 

I wish we had more discussions like this.  Because,
for the most part, it's not technical issues that we
struggle with.  It's interpersonal.  Crap, see, I'm
coming to the realisation that within that past hour
or two, my views have changed around offering advice,
per my original post.  And it's because of talking it
out with a few of you.

That's the stuff I want to talk about - like, why did
my views change like that?    I'm sure it doesn't make
me wishy-washy, but I know that when I have changed my
mind in the past,I've felt that way.  And I know
others feel like that too.

Does this happen to you guys?

Chris.



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C H R I S  W H E E L E R
Extreme Programmer & Coach


                
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