Re: Sex Tips for Promiscious Pairs (was Practice: Pair Programming)

Hi Kent, you know I have the greatest respect for you. So I don't know 
if my post stems from valor or foolishness.  (My reviewer said,  "I 
admire your courage but not your wisdom.")

Kent Beck wrote:

>I wanted to address the issue of inappropriate feelings in the workplace, 
>
Companies take discrimination and harassment seriously.  They have 
training that takes hours and sometimes days.  Policies are created to 
mitigate these types of problems.  Violation of these policies lead to 
termination and lawsuits.  IMO, two paragraphs are insufficient to cover 
this topic.

>and pairing provided a convenient place to put the discussion. 
>
When I read the two sex tips paragraphs, I became angry and frustrated.  
Why do I feel this way?  Was it because I feel it distracts from the 
goodness that is in Pair Programming and XP without offering any real 
advice (stop pairing, talk to someone, masturbate:-) ).  Or was it fear 
of HR's XP sensitivity policies?  Maybe it was it the missing advice for 
dealing with inter-gender advances.

I still don't know how to feel.  I take comfort knowing I am not alone; 
XP Agile Universe had the "the sex chapter" buzz:   "Was Kent involved 
in a lawsuit?" "Is Kent saying women should not be on the team?"  "Is 
this a joke -- he had /Sex Tips for Girls/ in XPE?"

>XP and pair programming didn't create the problem of sexuality in the 
>workplace. Pairing, however, can accentuate the problem: two people, physical 
>proximity, shared success. 
>  
>
XP can also mitigate such foolishness:  working as a team, working with 
different people every day, no two people working nights, all work is 
done in an open space, spending more time with your family all without 
an open discussion on sex.

I regret these two paragraphs in XPE 2nd Edition. I might regret this 
post.  On the other hand, I've enjoyed the learning and successes XP has 
brought me these past five years and look forward to many more. Thank 
you, Kent.

Sincerely,

Zhon Johansen


------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> 
Make a clean sweep of pop-up ads. Yahoo! Companion Toolbar.
Now with Pop-Up Blocker. Get it for free!
http://us.click.yahoo.com/L5YrjA/eSIIAA/yQLSAA/nhFolB/TM
--------------------------------------------------------------------~->