The problem of away messages....

Hi folk!

A while ago someone brought up that pyaim should be sending it's away  
messages via an actual autoresponse message when someone writes.  I  
implemented that, no problem.  I also commented that I was concerned  
that clients would "do their own thing" too.  Well, I now have a  
prime example of that.  ;)  My wife mentioned the other day that when  
she writes me and I have an away message, she gets it back 3 times.   
Once is ichat showing the away message as it knows it from status  
information.  Another is because pyaim responds with an auto-response  
away message.  A third is because my client (adiumx) sends yet  
another autoresponse with the away message in it.

So..  2 copies of the message I understand a little bit more.  I mean  
yeah, ok, your client shows the message and it's also send via im.   
You can't know what the client on the other end is doing and whether  
it's going to bother showing the known status-based away message upon  
a new im.  But then you also can't know that I'm running adiumx which  
will be a good monkey and send it's own copy of the away message.  3  
is kinda ridiculous.  2 is annoying.  1 is happy.  0 is bad.

So my question to you all is...  is there anything you can think of  
to help resolve some of these issues?  Looking for brainstorming, so  
don't be afraid to post whatever "crazy" or "not crazy" idea you  
might have.  =)

Daniel