Re: Nightline and Adult Auties

> > 
> > Tom - I think we have to disembark from the "institution" and even
> > "group
> > home" mindset.  It really is a change in thinking.
> 
> I hear you but still think it's naive and utopian.  Even if you got
> something like that going, it wouldn't take long for it to 
metamorphize
> into an institution to keep going.  It's the nature of things, but 
the
> attempt does produce a good foundation.  So I'm in.  Alot of it is
> semantics anyway.
> 
> Tom
> 
> > Have to run!  More later!
> > 
> > ~*~ tink
> > 
*****the communication aspects are important because what the 
AUTISTICS want and choose , feel and think and ultimately decide for 
themselves are important.  do they want to be in institutions or 
group homes or do they want to be members of society and their 
communities? that is the question. they are more than able to think 
and decide for themselves what they need and want "for themselves". 
its getting them to 'express' it and getting peoples 'hearing' 
themselves that gets in the way. we will establish communications so 
they can voice their desires and we will defend their decisions. 
ther'es enough peoples out there deciding whats best for them. 
there's enough peoples ignoring them as well. i think its time 
already someone asked them what they want and need and DEFEND their 
choices. it is a change of mindset. more like they will need 
assistance but not be dependant. i will work on things now to ensure 
that my daughter will have the options available for herself when we 
get to that point. so that ultimately whether she will be in a group 
home or institution or be a mamber of society and her community we be 
her deciosion. not yours, not mine nor anyone elses. 

think for a moment if you sudenly had a stroke. and became very 
limited. you suddenly cant talk. barely move.  and people had to 
decide what to do with you. now, would you want peoples to establish 
some form of communication so you can be participatory in the 
decision of whether you be put in a nursing home, or institution or 
live independantly with aide or assistance maybe with your family 
right next door or acroos the street... or just leave someone else to 
make that decision for you without any input from you. what would you 
decide? what do you think my child would decide? 

that's important. because with our kids what you want and what you 
think for them is never as important as to listen to what they want 
and think should be done for themselves. you will not be advocating 
for them. but assisting them to advocate for themselves... ABCD







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